As parents, we are all guilty of loving our children and doing whatever it takes to see them smile. But wouldn’t we want them to be able to grow into capable individuals with self-esteem and grace? These aren’t going to be developed by themselves, as we tell parents who attend our early intervention programs at Autism Intervention Specialists in Dubai. For children to pick up the right tendencies, they need role models to look up to. Let’s explore three ways some tough love can bring about a positive impact on the little humans in our lives:
1. Make & Follow Rules as a Team
Activities involving children should have rules and an extension so that they have a certain amount of flexibility. This should be made clear to everyone with both parents (and caretakers) being on the same page about it. This way, the child will not manipulate the situation with each parent but understand how a real team works. For instance, if you are going to allow your son/daughter to pick a piece of chocolate at the supermarket on monthly grocery runs, the deal is that they should let you know every time someone other than a parent or caretaker offers them candy. Playtime at the park with a parent or a caretaker within a permissible area is a rule. They need to know that going beyond that requires one of you with them. But rather than be forceful and aggressive, extend an invitation to participate in or do something, setting an ultimatum that still gives them another choice, an ‘if not THIS, then THAt’. In such a practice, they still exert a sense of control and are not feeling indignant.
2. Know When Silence is Fine
Children with autism tend to repeat sentences, especially questions. Tune into your sense of discernment to understand which questions require answers and how often. Sometimes, it is fine to not have an answer too. Simply let it pass. Parents and caretakers are prone to overwhelm and knowing where to draw the line plays a crucial part in mutual well-being.
3. Consistency for Comprehension
Once a pattern has been introduced, for example, the polite manner to ask to watch TV or a bedtime routine, stick to the practice no matter what. Repetition is key so that it becomes ingrained and before long, children know that is what yields results.
With patience, no new habit is that far away. Emotional and behavioral regulation is also part of our training programs for parents of children with autism. If you need help to know the best way to get started, reach out to our team today on call or WhatsApp: 521299360 or email: info@aisdubai.com
